I sent an email to the "bali on any budget" people and a lovely lady wrote back with a land only quote after i'd given her the task of finding separate rooms for us and the daughter for 13 nights for between 600-900 total...........she did it :)
we have 4 nights at lovina at the lovely SUNARI VILLAS & SPA RESORT
and then 9 nights at the bodget GRAND SINAR INDAH over at legian.
I'm very happy thats sorted and we have nice places to stay in separete rooms for $23 a night each :)
we made our target of 2 weeks for under 1k each. $920 lol
many thanks to everyone here for their help and advice